Business Speak

Enlightenment. I think that these conversations and what we perceieve as they mean are 50/50 chance. People could be genuine then they could be completely SH***** you. It was fun reading them though. I think it also depend on the level of the position that this person holds in regards to you. I generally see the higher ups to use and mean these phrases than those on the lower half of the totem pole. If you want to mean business, you tend to have to also act like business. Sometimes you never get the true people in a business and even corporate world. Everyone is too busy outdoing the next person. The worst line I cannot stand is this.

After an important interview:

a. Do you have any questions for me?
b. I rather you only ask in regards to the position and not anything else about me. Let see how smart you really are and know this company.

a. Ok. We shall get back to you within one week. (oh I just hate this btw) Well we are still interviewing other people and we shall have a decision by the end of week. Thank you for coming.
b. I really don't intend to hire you. You were not the type of go-getter I imagined. I mean you did not even lick my boots good enough. NEXT.

Then they polish it up by sending you a quite lovely letter from the company, "Thank you for interviewing with us. However at this time, you were not selected as a candidate. We shall keep your resume on our file for 1 year. If you become a selected candidate in the FUTURE, we will surely contact you. Best of luck (LOSER)." As an extra (ha ha) to you. You can tell I hate interviewing. ;)

I cannot tell you how many times I've received stupid courtesy letters from potential employers.

You can generally and usually tell when people really mean what they say. I am not an ass-kisser. I don't spend a waking day calling the same people more to the point they recognize your voice and hang up in your face. Life is a rat race. It is sad that you have to learn how to play the game or stay on the outside field lines watching forever. I am not for games. Sometimes you have to take your own lead and start your own business etc. Put yourself in charge of you and not let anyone else do it for you. I prefer people to see the real me so they are not in for a surprise!

You've must have been doing some reflection. ;)- I say not let anyone control what you want out of life if you do. You will always be their pond as they say. I am not a business minded person. I would be greatly to tell someone off easily if they were to use me like I have no other value about myself.

"You can generally and usually tell when people really mean what they say." Can you? I'm getting myself to read body language, facial expression etc. - but like you say, the odds are 50/50: Sometimes, I get it right away, other times, they play a foul game and then you'll only realize, when it's too late to do something about it. I have even been in situations, where I could tell right away, what was going on, but didn't have strong enough an alliance to back me up. The more I experience, the more I tend to think that the workplace (and sometimes life in general) is a battlefield, where everyone fights for themselves - in an unfair manner, if I might add.
I guess, I'm saying, I'm beginning to turn bitter... I so wished not for this to happen, but it seems I can't do much about it - life is just so full of disappointments in everything emotional.... Or in other words: I might expect too much of it, when it is little more than what Darwin found: A mere process of selection for the fitter species and/or individual. Sigh.... I haven't been (positively) surprised in a long time (with just few exceptions). I don't mean to sound ungrateful: Thanks for making the effort of reading AND replying - I appreciate THAT!

Sometimes you can and sometimes you cannot. I think the more you feed in to what people say or do, the more you get loss and resentful. I think once you're sensitive to lots of thing it does not take much for other things. You know my older brother speaks of "the law of attraction," I have pondered and rolled my eyes many times talking with him over the phone about it. He says if I think negatively, I will draw negative energy. Then I will debate the issue that a lot of what we think we can control, we cannot. And people are a good example. We wish for others to treat us right, but the most important question to ask ourselves-are we treating ourselves right? I grew up being sensitive to people teasing me, etc. Then I started to try to grow a hard shell. It doesn't work. We are succumb to indifference. People speak negative we reflect more on it than someone saying something more positive at times. The reason I say it is a 50/50 chance, we don't always no the outcome of a situation. Of course we can read into cues, it does not mean that it is always accurate. You're right the longer we spend time in the circles, we pick up things. I think that life is better to not pay attention to drama. Cause it's all just drama. Long as you do good by others, you will have it in return. I guess in some degree I can agree with my older brother about the law of attraction. Your good deeds will be remembered. Believe this. If no one does, ey, you have yourself to be happy that you did.

Don't turn sour. You'll lose the flavor of life.

And yes life is full of disappointments, but the best way you learn to deal with them. The better outcome hopefully you will see for yourself. We are human. We can only tolerate so much. Keep your head up and forward. It does not make sense to fall face down especially if you already know what you're falling into and looking at it. With everything it takes time. Focus on the better things.